Rope Bondage is not a mainstream hobby. People who have tried bondage are not common, and some people are unwilling to talk about it even if they have tried it, and the interviewees are relatively limited. So I interviewed some of my friends involved with the Kink Community in China and also some new friends I made since coming to London.. The topic of the interview is to let everyone share their feelings and opinions before and after trying rope bondage.
Jieer(She/Her): Before experiencing Rope Bondage, I have been watching BDSM porn. Some Japanese porn contains rope bondage content. I enjoy the process of watching this. The rough hemp rope goes through the chest, wrist and arms, which is very sexy. The rope wrapped around me like a snake and walked into my heart. Today, I no longer think that rope binding is just a performance art, which brings me too many layers of rich emotions and precious memories. The rope connects me to my friends whom I have been extremely lucky to know.
Yahani(She/Her): Although I had no sexual shame before trying to tie, I could often receive from the message about bondage the idea of male dominance and objectification of women, which was inevitable. Before I met CK, the binding I came into contact with in Korea was a flower rack, and personally I felt that the experience was not a bondage, so it was not really tried at that time.
After being tied up, it can be said that my desire to perform has been amplified, and I am more convinced that I have no sense of sexual shame. Personally, I feel that when it comes to getting rid of sexual shame, the experience of bondage has a certain impact. (There is a premise here. I am suffering from severe depression and anxiety. It became more severe during my time in Hangzhou. I only came into contact with ck and them later. Therefore, in addition to the physical feeling, the psychological feeling will be magnified more)
Bondage does have actual sensory experience, and it also has a further understanding of one’s own body and psychology. It can selectively empower one’s own body. Women can also choose what they can accept and are willing to try in the process. Roles, but the roles of women and men are unequal from beginning to end. It is always women who are being examined or men who become women. Everyone knows this.
My boyfriend is an ordinary person who doesn’t get in touch with these at all, and I haven’t shown him my preferences and mental state in this regard, and I didn’t know or be interested in role reversal sex(The Fourth Love in Mandarin which means a heterosexual relationship where the woman is the top) before. After trying bondage, I am more willing to try the so-called role switching, whether it is sex or personality, and try differently with my own body and other people’s bodies. My desire to satisfy my own body and mind has been completely magnified and dissected.
Wisdom(He/Him, Film&Business student):
Most of the people I interviewed had a negative attitude towards Rope Bondage before trying it, and a positive attitude towards it after trying it. A small number of people originally had a positive attitude towards Rope Bondage, but after trying it, they were pleasantly surprised that Rope Bondage was better than they originally expected!